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TU156: What Actually Heals in Therapy with Psychoanalyst Nancy McWilliams – Replay

TU156: What Actually Heals in Therapy with Psychoanalyst Nancy McWilliams – Replay

It’s hard to verbalize the problem with “evidence-based” models of care, but renowned psychoanalyst and psychologist Nancy McWilliams does just that. In today’s replay, she further describes what happens in quality depth-oriented therapies such as psychoanalytically-informed, attachment-oriented therapy, and integrates the neurobiological aspect that Freud started that has now been confirmed. Enjoy this episode replay, because it still has so much wisdom to share.

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TU153: How Good Boundaries Bring Us Closer – REPLAY – with Juliane Taylor Shore

TU153: How Good Boundaries Bring Us Closer – REPLAY – with Juliane Taylor Shore

Interpersonal co-regulation requires boundary-setting. Therapist Uncensored co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott join the founder of IPNB Psychotherapy of Austin, Dr. Juliane Taylor Shore, in a discussion on interpersonal neurobiology and regulation. We’ll explore the three types of boundaries, how to co-create them plus how to stay regulated using internalized relationships with the self.

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TU140 – Couples Therapy Through the Eyes of Experts: Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson

TU140 – Couples Therapy Through the Eyes of Experts: Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson

Every couple has its ups and downs, but it’s easy to think that our relationship is uniquely challenging. Experts in couples therapy and a couple themselves, Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson join co-host Sue Marriott to discuss what most people get wrong about working with couples, and how to help get it right. Together, they’ll dive into the dos and don’ts of couples therapy, from the perspective of the therapist and the patient. 

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TU139: Boys and Sex, Modern Young Men and Sexuality with Peggy Orenstein

TU139: Boys and Sex, Modern Young Men and Sexuality with Peggy Orenstein

Dive into hook up culture, locker room talk, and the modern shifts in youth sexual behavior and health. Peggy Orenstein unpacks her new book “Boys and Sex” with co-host Ann Kelley. In this peak behind the curtain of the experience of young male sexuality, we’ll see how boys struggle with the conflicting needs of the conquest narrative of sex and their own internal understanding of pleasure. Her book was written about both cis and trans men, and covers the whole spectrum of sexual orientations, backgrounds, and experiences.

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TU137:  Holding Your Own S5, Malignant Narcissism (5th in a series)

TU137: Holding Your Own S5, Malignant Narcissism (5th in a series)

Accusations are their confessions. In this episode learn why we elect, promote, excuse and love those with malignant narcissist tendencies. Sort out the other forms of self-involvement, psychopathology and anti-social traits from this dangerous personality structure. Sue & Ann finish out their series on Holding Your Own with Challenging Personality Traits – this is session 5 of 6. Find more here www.therapistuncensored.com

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TU136: Holding Your Own S4 -“Borderline” Traits (4th in a series)

TU136: Holding Your Own S4 -“Borderline” Traits (4th in a series)

When does sensitivity cross the line into clinical reactivity?

Borderline traits, or those with highly reactive personalities, are another common challenge in relationship that we might need support to navigate well.

Today’s episode sees co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott unpack high reactivity through a caring and developmental approach. Together, they discuss how these dynamics and traits arise, what they look like, and what we can do when we find ourselves in relationships with them. Find more here www.therapistuncensored.com/episodes

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TU135: Holding Your Own Session 3 – Covert Narcissism (3rd in a Series)

TU135: Holding Your Own Session 3 – Covert Narcissism (3rd in a Series)

When does self-consciousness and self-reflection cross the line into self-preoccupation? Covert narcissism is also called thin-skinned, vulnerale, depressed or closet narcissism. It’s a real thing but unlike grandiosity, it’s quite hard to spot!  Think about it – if you feel when you walk in a room everyone is looking at you – admiringly or judgmentally, either way – that is a narcissistic fantasy. Today’s episode follows the other side of grandiosity. Find more here www.therapistuncensored.com/episodes

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TU133: Holding Your Own 1: Messy but Secure Relating

TU133: Holding Your Own 1: Messy but Secure Relating

First in a series Holding Your Own with Challenging Personalities – this episode unpacks the 5 types of conflict in couples, conditions to develop security and cornerstones of what makes secure functioning couples secure. This sets up our later episodes on the various types of narcissism, misunderstood borderline relating, antisocial and malignant narcissism, unconscious defenses for everyone involved, suspected causes of high reactivity or impaired empathy, and a focus all along on what you can do to improve your circumstances – whatever that means for you.

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TU131 – Strange Situation: Surprising Attachment Science Uncovered, with Bethany Saltman

TU131 – Strange Situation: Surprising Attachment Science Uncovered, with Bethany Saltman

People are profoundly bad at predicting their own attachment status, and if you are trying to do that you are headed in the right direction.  🙂  That sort of mindful inquiry is part of attachment security – learn more in today’s episode. Bethany Saltman and Sue Marriott discuss the Strange Situation, the original attachment research by Mary Ainsworth. They bring to life what it means and how to see it in everyday life.

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TU127 Grandma Heals: Community-Based Mental Health Care from Zimbabwe with Dr. Ruth Verhey

TU127 Grandma Heals: Community-Based Mental Health Care from Zimbabwe with Dr. Ruth Verhey

The Friendship Bench -discover the 3-step community-based program that is has proven to be an effective non-traditional model of mental health care delivery.
In this episode, researcher and program director Dr. Ruth Verhey joins co-host Sue Marriott to discuss this community-based intervention, the Friendship Bench.  Together they explore the benefits and barriers to building a community-driven and cooperative approach to mental health.  By looking at what makes it effective, we can begin to explore what makes therapy effective in general and learn from the need to strip away the “extra” that may not add value to mental healthcare.

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TU126 – What Do We Mean by Modern Attachment?  Sue Marriott & Ann Kelley Discuss

TU126 – What Do We Mean by Modern Attachment? Sue Marriott & Ann Kelley Discuss

Pausing the riches of the guest interviews, Sue Marriott & Ann Kelley are back to discuss what has changed in the attachment field.  They share what makes it modern anyway, review the science, and discuss their Modern Attachment-Regulation Spectrum (MARS).  They also cover best practices for getting through online therapy. Learn more at Therapist Uncensored www.therapistuncensored.com and get full shownotes here.

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TU125 – Dan Siegel & Tina Payne-Bryson: Parenting Under Stress

TU125 – Dan Siegel & Tina Payne-Bryson: Parenting Under Stress

We’re all struggling with some uncertainty and fear right now, and as a parent it can often be especially hard to know how to raise a child during the rise of Coronavirus. Learn the cheat code to parenting in a pandemic with Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Bryson as they join co-host Sue Marriott to unpack their new book The Power of Showing Up. In this episode they break down the science behind attachment in parenting, and share what it means to show up. Applicable not just with children but in all relationships, their four pillars of attachment can change the way we relate to ourselves, and each other, for the better.

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