TU37: Organizing The Disorganized – Understanding The Elusive Attachment Category

by | Jul 18, 2017 | Attachment, Brain Science, Episodes, Neuroscience, Polyvagal Theory, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma

Show Notes

IN THIS EPISODE:

Organizing The Disorganized: Understanding The Elusive Attachment Category
Show Notes

Disorganized attachment states of mind happen to us all. We temporarily get lost in a jumble and it’s difficult to track what is happening… but for some this is a more serious concern that can reflect much of how we feel much of the time. By popular request, we begin to unravel the last attachment category and update current thinking that includes those who have unresolved trauma, loss or have had caregivers who were frightening.

Disorganized Attachment

In this episode, Sue Marriott, Patty Olwell and Dr. Ann Kelley discuss this oft-overlooked fourth category; disorganized attachment and how it affects our adult lives. We go over it’s development and move to our current thinking on what it includes. We’ll talk about how attachment is formed as a survival skill and how loss, trauma and frightening caregivers transport individuals to disorganized spaces. Towards the end you’ll learn how relationships can provide safety and security in neurobiological terms, and how you can affect change for yourself or a loved one.

Timeline

0:00 -1:53 Intro

1:53 – 3:49 Quick review of attachment & underlying organized dynamics (Secure & Insecure) Insecure attachment (Insecure Preoccupied & Insecure Avoidant)

3:49 – 4:18 Data on attachment and historical figures (John Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth, Mary Main)

4:18 – Attachment as biological imperative & cross cultural – everyone has an attachment system

4:59 Three distinct categories – The addition of the fourth distinct disorganized attachment category (The Strange Situation)

6:54 – The problem of disorganization in adults rather than children (update) – Applying data to real life individual people – Disorganization/attachment as a spectrum

7:59 – How can we begin to move towards the middle (secure) including the disorganized?

9:32 – Buckets instead of a category

10:19 – What does disorganized attachment look like in an adult? What does “unresolved” mean? Losing mentalization & context, disorganization in parents

11:59 – Frightening caregivers – Deborah Jacobvitz

12:51 – Moving unresolved into resolved space – Narrative coherence (resolved) Unresolved taking too much information forward so you can’t forget about the stress event or events bad (in the form of nightmares, intrusions, and pre-occupations)

15:03 Other side of unresolved – avoidance of incident/trauma

16:09 – Children with trauma don’t have narrative coherence – body remembers incident but it’s fragmented

17:09 = Clinicians that came in after Ainsworth Main and Bowlby – Patricia Crittenden (student of Ainsworth). Keeping the caregiver available.

20:09 – Finding an organized state balanced between thinking and feeling

21:00 – What to do in order to heal (developing trust is key to healing)

22:00 – Biology of attachment

23:00 – Free Online Course on Modern Adult Attachment coming soon, along with

others that will include Advanced Studies – join the waiting list for the free course at

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25:47 – Outro

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