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We're not talking about your garden-variety “positive vibes only” BS. Vitality is raw life force – that primal energy that gets you out of bed when everything feels impossible. It's the fire in your belly that refuses to let the bastards grind you down. It's mental clarity when the world's gone mad, emotional resilience when everything hurts, and the stubborn determination to stay connected when isolation feels safer. This is a series of monthly workshops open to anyone wanting to stay awake and alive and secure inside ourselves and between us.
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Apple-Ranked Top 10 Social Science Podcast in U.S.
Top 50 Science Podcast in 75 countrieS
What you can find here:
A podcast, a critically-acclaimed book, a fresh online course,
tons of free resources and an online community.
Why do we do this?
The science is clear and hopeful – and we believe everyone deserves access to it. Working alongside leading experts, we translate complex relational sciences and depth psychology into practical tools that help uncover your authentic self (believe us, your people will be so happy!).
Our approach helps you recognize and update unconscious patterns, creating profound changes in your mind, relationships, parenting, and professional life.
FEATURED GUESTS
Connect directly with world-renowned experts and bold new voices who challenge conventional thinking.
Below are a sample of the attachment research pioneers, relational neuroscientists, and cutting edge clinicians included in our episode library.
Now, anyone can learn directly from the smartest minds in the relational sciences at zero cost.
Dr. Dan Siegel
Dr. Arielle Schwartz
Dr. Jill Bolte-Tayl0r
Dr. Diana Fosha
Dr. Carol George
Shadeen Francis
Julian Taylor-Schore
Linda Thai
Dr. Kristen Neff
Dr. Emily Nagoski
Dr. Bonnie Badenoch
Dr. Aditi Sethi
Dr. Bruce Perry
Dr. Frank Anderson
Lori Gottlieb
Dr. David Elliott
Dr. Amish Jha
Dr. Pat Crittendon
Liz Plank
Dr. Dan Brown
Dr. Dacher Keltner
Esther Perel
Matthias Barker
Akilah Riley-Richardson
Dr. Nancy McWilliams
Dr. Steve Finn
Dr. Bruce Eckert
Dr. Steve Porges
Dr. Tina Payne-Bryson
Deb Dana
Stan Tatkin
Dr. Joseph LaDeux
Robyn Gobell
Loretta Ross
We continuously integrate new and trusted perspectives into our clinical thinking and theory as we keep honing in on what actually works to heal people.
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Stan Tatkin
Steve Finn
Alphonso Appleton
Ellyn Bader
Dan Brown
Jules Shore
Liz Plank
Bonnie Badenoch
Sarah Peyton
Aby Blakely
Deb Dana
Doug Braun-Harvey
Tina Atkins
L Brookins
Pam Greenstone
Robyn Gobbel
Linno Rhodes
The Science of Psychotherapy's Becki Mendivil
Susan Ansorge
Bob Schneider
What do you want to learn today?
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Use our search bar to explore any topic. Find related episodes and access individualized show notes with curated resources for deeper learning.
Secure Relating: Holding Your Own in an Insecure World
Bridging science with actionable insights for daily life & clinical practice.
Endorsed by leading attachment researchers –
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We keep the podcast cost-free to provide full access to anyone interested (we are heard in over 200 countries). We also offer a private online community we affectionately call our Neuronerds. By joining for as little as $5 per month, you get an ad-free podcast feed, access to unique connections and educational opportunities and discounts on things we produce – including fun therapy bling. Most importantly to us, you help us provide mental health access to those traditionally left behind.
Candid unscripted conversations rooted in modern attachment and the newly emerging sciences of the mind will deeply inform, entertain and even surprise you.
Learn how to outsmart your biology and improve your relationships with others.
The podcast is always free so that it is accessible to everyone, but if you are able to join our Premium Community, you will help us support mental health access to those traditionally left behind. You'll receive an ad-free podcast feed, discounts on educational opportunties we offer and fun therapy bling,
Most Recent Episodes
Bonus – You Belong Here: Reframing Imposter Syndrome with Dr. Jill Stoddard (273)
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Dr. Ann Kelley is joined by Dr. Jill Stoddard as they unpack the complexities of imposter syndrome—why it shows up, who it impacts most, and how to move through it. Drawing on her expertise in psychological flexibility and values-based living, Dr. Stoddard shares strategies to navigate self-doubt, marginalization, and internalized insecurity. Learn how to reframe discomfort, build a healthier relationship with vulnerability, and use these moments as powerful opportunities for connection and growth. Join our exclusive neuronerd community – TherapistUncensored.com/Join
From Zimbabwe to New York City, Expanding Quality Mental Health Access – the Friendship Bench with Dr. Dixon Chibanda (272)
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Grounded in research and lived experience, this conversation invites a rethinking of care—away from over-medicalization and toward more accessible, human-centered approaches. Dixon Chibanda shares the powerful story behind the Friendship Bench, a community-based mental
health model that centers healing in the heart of local communities. He explores how grandmothers—often overlooked in traditional mental health systems—play a vital role in offering care, connection, and wisdom. Dr. Chibanda discusses the barriers to accessing mental health services, the role of storytelling in the healing process, and the global expansion of the Friendship Bench. Grounded in research and lived experience, this conversation invites a rethinking of care—away from over-medicalization and toward more accessible, human-centered approaches. View this episodes shownotes at TherapistUncensored.com/TU271 – Join our exclusive online community at TherapistUncensored.com/Join
What is Real Allyship When it Comes to White Women and Racial Trauma with Dr. Monnica Williams (271)
Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 1:03:48 — 146.1MB)
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Dr. Monnica Williams alongside Sue Marriott explore the deep psychological toll of racism, focusing on the concept of racial trauma and its cumulative impact on people of color. She highlights the importance of recognizing these experiences within therapeutic settings and the need for diversity in mental health research and practice. The discussion delves into the role of civil courage and meaningful allyship—particularly among white individuals in addressing systemic injustice. Dr. Williams offers insights into the multifaceted nature of activism, the harm caused by microaggressions, and the emotional labor involved in navigating everyday racism. From the fear of law enforcement to the unique challenges faced by white women in activism, Dr. Williams urges practitioners and allies alike to listen deeply, receive feedback openly, and use their privilege to support marginalized communities. Shownotes: www.therapistuncensored.com/TU271 Join online community: www.therapistuncensored.com/join
Bonus – Amplify Your Voice: Reflections on Mental Health & Meaningful Practice (270)
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Let's get real about revitalizing the therapy landscape
Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott are back for a one on one episode, and sharing their personal reflections on
mental health, community, and the evolving challenges clinicians face today. From the tension between accessibility and sustainability in therapy, to the influence of corporate models – they discuss the need for creativity in the field. Emphasizing connection, curiosity, and professional growth, they introduce exciting opportunities, updates, and even a new series focused on inclusivity – inviting listeners to find and amplify their unique voice in the mental health space.
Smartphones: The Truth About Their Impact on Mental Health with Dr. Jean Twenge (269)
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Dr. Ann Kelley is joined by Dr. Jean Twenge to discuss her groundbreaking research on generational differences with a focus on how technology—especially smartphones and social media—has transformed communication, relationships, and mental health. They explore how historical shifts and longer life spans contribute to delayed life milestones and what she calls the “slow life strategy.” Dr. Twenge highlights the alarming rise in anxiety and depression among Generation Z, which is closely linked to increased screen time and reduced face-to-face interactions. Together they discuss practical steps parents can take to support healthier development and social connection. Join our Neuronerd online community www.therapistuncensored.com/join. Shownotes www.therapistuncensored.com/tu269.
Bonus – The 9 Personality Patterns and the Enneagram with Dr. Dan Siegel (267)
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Alongside co-host Sue Marriott, Dr. Dan Siegel explores how loss, vulnerability, and connection shape personal growth and healing. He discusses the science of attachment and personality, highlighting nine
adaptive patterns that emerge from non-secure attachment. The conversation also explores how neuroscience sheds light on emotional needs, alongside Siegel’s personal reflections on his own attachment history and path as a professional. Together they unpack how neuroscience, motivation, and community impact therapy. The episode offers practical insights for clinicians, emphasizing a compassionate, non-shaming approach to mental health and the journey toward secure attachment and the feeling of wholeness.
Gender Fluid Identities & Creative Expression with Quentin Arispe (265)
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Neuroception and the Evolution of Human Spirit with Kim Barthel (263)
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Meet Your Cohosts
SUE MARRIOTT, LCSW, CGP & ANN KELLY, Ph.D.
Ann Kelley Ph.D. (she/her/hers) and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP (he/her/hers) are experienced licensed therapists that provide candid and focused education to help you bring awareness to the unconscious patterns in your life that get in your way.
As out, gay married co-hosts they bring in humor and personal insights of the cringy struggle to try to function more securely as a couple, and in the world. They also provide state of the art education, clinical insights, summaries of complex science and their own developed reflections on how to grow through these life-long patterns.
No matter what your history or what your age, there is hope to keep developing your secure self, which helps grow closeness with those you love.
Meet Your Cohosts
SUE MARRIOTT, LCSW, CGP & ANN KELLEY, Ph.D.
Ann Kelley Ph.D. (she/her/hers) and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP (she/her/hers) are experienced licensed therapists that provide candid and focused education to help you bring awareness to the unconscious patterns in your life that get in your way.
As married co-hosts they bring in humor and personal insights of the cringy struggle to try to function more securely as a couple, and in the world. They also provide state of the art education, clinical insights, summaries of complex science and their own developed reflections on how to grow through these life-long patterns.
No matter what your history or what your age, there is hope to keep developing your secure self, which helps grow closeness with those you love.
Deepen your relationships and demystify your own interpersonal blocks by learning how to use the sciences of the mind.
We want to help each of you become a little more secure, not as a feeling but as a neurological fact. If you are interested in learning how to outsmart your biology and transform into the most relational and confident version of you, then you are our people.
Our audience is intentionally wide- it includes everyone from seasoned therapists, students in the field, other professions that can benefit from knowing how to deeply understand people, those injured by early relationships, and those life-long learners interested in staying abreast and helping make the world a little more secure.