Pleasurable Sex, Gender Queerness & Life Burnout with Dr. Emily Nagoski (259)

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Show Notes

Sex, gender queerness, and the power of connection …

Dr. Emily Nagoski joins co-host Sue Marriott for a deep and insightful conversation about desire, pleasure, and the impact of societal norms on sexuality. Together they explore the evolving landscape of trans rights and healthcare, emphasizing patient-centered care and the urgent need for societal support. Through her journey as a sex educator, Nagoski advocates for deeper understanding and connection, while also sharing practical approaches to educating young people about gender and sexuality, managing stress, and finding meaning and purpose in life.

“Talking about sex is my absolute favorite thing.” – Dr. Emily Nagoski

Time Stamps for Pleasurable Sex, Gender & Boundaries (259)

01:02 The intersection of sex, boundaries, and burnout
08:04 The importance of pleasure over desire
11:48 Creating a safe and supportive context for pleasure
20:07 Challenging the gender binary
31:50 The evolution of trans rights and healthcare
37:40 Tactical approaches to gender education

About our Guest – Dr. Emily Nagoski
Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling Come As You  Are and Come Together, as well as The Come As You Are Workbook, and coauthor, with her  sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle.  She earned an M.S. in counseling and a Ph.D. in health behavior, both from Indiana University,  with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and  stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist.
Resources for Pleasurable Sex, Gender & Boundaries

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EmilyNagoski.com – Website, resources and other important information 

@ENagoski – Instagram profile

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle – Book by Dr. Emily Nagoski & Amelia Nagoski

Feminist Survival Project – Her current podcast with co-host Amelia Nagoski

Come As You Are – (Limited Series, 2022) – Podcast


 

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