TU117: Resilience Trauma and the Brain W/ Guest Bruce Perry MD, PhD

by | Mar 13, 2020 | Brain Science, Episodes, Guest Interviews, Neuroscience, Personal Growth, Therapy, Trauma

Show Notes

“Regulate, then relate, then reason” -Dr. Bruce Perry

In this episode, co-host Sue Marriott speaks with Dr. Bruce Perry, a renowned neuroscientist, psychiatrist, clinician and researcher on children's mental health. They discuss staging intervention based on brain develop in a technique called the Neurosequential Model.

Who is Dr. Bruce Perry?

Bruce Perry, MD, PhD is the Senior Fellow of The ChildTrauma Academy, a not-for-profit organization based in Houston, TX.  He also serves as adjunct Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University in Chicago. In addition, he is the inaugural Senior Fellow of the Berry Street Childhood Institute.

Dr. Perry wrote The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog, with Maia Szalavitz, which is a bestselling book based on his work with maltreated children. Born For Love: Why Empathy is Essential and Endangered, BRIEF: Reflections on Childhood, Trauma, and Society and RESILIENT: Six Core Strengths for Healthy Development are among his well respected work.  

Over the last thirty years, Dr. Perry has been an active teacher, clinician and researcher in children’s mental health and the neurosciences holding a variety of academic positions.

The Concept of Resilience

  • Defined as the capacity and basically the capacity to tolerate stressors and challenges and maintain function
  • Resilience is built; children are not born with it, and it can also be tapped out

How is Resilience Built?

  • Resilience is built through relationally mediated experiences of moderate challenge where there's predictability, consistency and some degree of controllability.
  • These experiences activate the stress response system.
  • Because of neuroplasticity, neural networks are changeable but only when the neural network itself is activated, meaning the stress response system can only become more flexible, strong, and capable when activated.
  • We can only become more resilient when stressed but in a certain pattern – needs 3 things: predictability, moderation, and controllability.

The Underdeveloped Stress Response System

  • Without adequate stressors, example helicopter parenting, the stress response system does not become resilient, which leads to difficulty coping with the increasing complexity and demands taking place through development.

The Neurosequential Model

  • Developed to explain the behaviors Dr Perry saw in children with overactive and underdeveloped stress response symptoms
  • Looks at where the individual is cognitively w/ regard to self-regulation in comparison to their age chronologically
  • Those who have not had the social learning experiences that correspond with their age in years do not have those skills. If given developmentally targeted opportunities, they can catch up
  • Bottom up approach
  • Particularly effective w/ complex trauma, can be used to treat adults and children

Clinical Application of the Neurosequential Model

  • View maladaptive behaviors as a form of self-regulation
  • Create a Daily Regulatory Plan
  • Regulatory activity
  • Predictability
  • Spacing
  • Dosing

Intentional Guided Imagery For Building Resilience

  • Creating an internal world where a specific role and scenario are played out – we have more control over our internal process of imagining than we realize
  • Doing this helps to desensitize an overactive stress response system when dosed properly
  • Build empathy by reading novels
  • Ideal Parent Protocol
  • Kids and cartoons

Thoughts on the attachment sciences, infant attachment, and adult attachment

  • The early relational experiences are the major determinants of the set point for the stress response
  • It is the quality of the caregiving that literally helps build in the capacity to be resilient or sensitized.
  • In context of early caregiving, the attentive attuned responsive carer is essentially building into the brain a triune association between the reward neurobiology in the brain, the stress response to biology and the relational neurobiology.

Hope and Change

  • The brain continues to be malleable.
  • if you've got a system in your brain that appears to be dysfunctional, you can't change that system unless you activate that system. And so many of these systems that were impacted earlier in your life that may be continuing to play a disorganizing role in how you function are lower and lower in the brain and they're going to be much easier to access through somatosensory routes
  • Then do the work of repairing self-esteem around the secondary and tertiary problems caused by the initial dysregulation


The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog, a bestselling book based on Perry's work with maltreated children, and

Born For Love: Why Empathy is Essential and Endangered by Dr. Bruce Perry

Dr Bruce Perry's Website

Neurosequential Network

Child Trauma Academy

Video: 60 Minutes With Oprah Winfrey 2018

Neurosequential Network “Best Hits” Slides

Child Trauma Academy Clinical Practice Tools

Video: The A List with Alison Lebovitz 2019

Video: Explore Health: WTCI PBS 2018

Video: Born For Love

Article: Child Abuse On the Brain

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TU33: Adverse Childhood Experiences – A Roadmap to Understanding and Treatment

TU47: Attachment Insecurity and Secure Parenting with Guest Tina Payne-Bryson

TU101: Treating Attachment Disruptions in Adults With David Elliott (Replay)


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