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Afraid of interacting at work? Candid and hilarious conversation about how the relational sciences translates to work and parenting, by a single-not-dating listener ready to challenge the premise.
Are you sick of hearing about relationships but interested in attachment? (Or want to deepen your understanding of real world application of the science while you have a good laugh??! All the single listeners (think Beyonce!) heads up. We are going to break down attachment theory and apply the cool science for all of us….
Continuing in the series on adult attachment, co-host Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP joins Becki Mendivil in a spunky wild conversation about how attachment affects someone who isn’t in a romantic relationship nor is seeking one, but simply as an individual and a human being. We’ll chat about personal experiences with attachment with a wide array of anecdotal examples and dive into the essentials of not remaining in one spot on the attachment spectrum.
Becki is self-described as “very blue” so this episode is especially great for those that linger on the avoidant end of the spectrum. Just try not to laugh and learn as it unfolds!
If you like this you’ll want to be sure and listen to our attachment series, check out Therapist Uncensored home page and scroll down to the attachment category. Recent episodes 58, 59 and 60 will catch you up to speed!
Introduction
The problem of assuming someone’s in or seeking a romantic relationship when discussing adult attachment
Becki’s giving Therapist Uncensored hosts the what-what on how she reads what we’ve said so far
Generational transference of attachment
15:00-30:00
Becki’s experience in listening to the avoidant attachment episode of Therapist Uncensored
Seeing the light!
Becki’s exeriments to test if this model is actually useful or not. Daughter example. Empathetic silliness unfolds.
Sue’s anecdote about her son and changes in attachment
Becki affecting change in her physical isolation at work – confronting Sue on therapizing her 🙂
30:00-45:00
Becki’s wild move towards interacting more directly with peers (!)
Avoiding attachment labels/categories as strict definitions of a person
Navigating up and down the spectrum of attachment in response to varying types of threats
45:00-60:00
Attachment disruptions
Idea of the “corkscrew”
Wrap up and outro
Resources:
Adult Attachment Styles in the Workplace – Harms, 2011 article
Integrating attachment syle, vigor at work and extra-role performance at work -Little, et al 2011 article
Individual differences in Work-Related Well Being, the Role of Attachment 2014
