Holding Your Own – Behind the Scenes and Part I of Secure Relating with Ann & Sue (235)

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It's finally here! Secure Relating: Holding Your Own in an Insecure World is out now!

After years of hard work, Sue and Ann could not be more excited to celebrate the release of their book. Today's episode offers behind the scene's conversation and a deeper dive into Part 1 of the book, Secure Relating Holding Your Own in an Insecure World. You can purchase it now directly at www.securerelatingbook.com and get an ad-free podcast feed at www.therapistuncensored.com/join.

“We survive because of our innate longing for connection….” – Sue Marriott

Time Stamps for Secure Relating: Holding Your Own in an Insecure World 

1:45 – Information about our book & book launch

15:25 – Breaking down the three section of the book

29:22 – The armor of the sturdy survivor 

31:06 – Sue’s anecdote and analysis of the MMPI test

35:54 – Overview of the Three R Healing Spiral 

45:28 – Reflecting and Building Agency 

Resources for Secure Relating: Holding Your Own in an Insecure World 

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