Shifting Activation Levels: Part II of Secure Relating with Ann & Sue (236)

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The party isn't over quite yet. This is part 2 of 3 of our behind-the-scenes look at our book journey.

Following the launch of the book, our virtual party, and our Modern Attachment conference in Austin, TX, Ann and Sue open with gratitude from the event, and for the overwhelming outpour of love and support from our community and those who help inspire this content. As we dive into more chapters of the book, we lean into understanding the attachment spectrum colors, recognizing what is happening internally when we feel activated, and shifting activation levels.

“This isn't about pathologizing – this is about learning the patterns of how our body responds when we get activated and what to do next.” – Sue Marriott

Time Stamps for Shifting Activation Levels

00:32 – Trying to process the overwhelming virtual launch with the incredible attachment community

5:02 – Engaging different activation states – looking at Part 2 of Secure Relating

11:02 – Direct look into blue leaning patterns, dismissing attachment activation via Chapter 8

15:32- Understanding the behaviors behind  “blue” with compassion and watching for shame

19:14 – Cooling down red activation – preoccupied patterns via Chapter 9

23:13 – Resolving the unresolved -tye dye patterns and trauma, via a peek into Chapter 10 

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