The Fluidity of Gender Identity with Quentin Arispe (265)

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Show Notes

Humanizing the queer experience is vital in art and media

Sue Marriott is joined by Quentin Arispe, as they share their incredible journey of self-discovery. Exploring themes of gender fluidity, the impact of theater on personal growth, and the balance between masculinity and femininity – they discuss the role of grief in creative expression. Their conversation highlights the importance of authenticity and vulnerability in the creative process, as well as the transformative journey of humanizing the queer experience through art.

“I think everybody can obtain both their divine masculine and feminine.” – Quentin Arispe

Time Stamps for The Fluidity of Gender Identity with Quentin Arispe (265)

05:50 The impact of theater on Quentin's personal growth
17:47 Understanding divine masculine and feminine
21:45 The dichotomy of performance and authenticity
26:07 The role of grief in creative expression
42:07 Embracing duality in grief and joy
56:00 Exploring identity through music
01:17:05 Humanizing the queer experience

About our Guest – Quentin Arispe

Quentin Arispe is a versatile musician whose genre-blending sound is both innovative and deeply personal. Quentin explores themes of duality, freedom, and self-expression, challenging societal norms while celebrating authenticity and vulnerability. Featured in Austin Chronicle and performing at venues like The Bitter End in NYC, Quentin has also appeared at festivals such as SXSW and ACL. With influences spanning soul, R&B, indie pop, and pop icons, Quentin continues to leave a lasting mark on music. In 2024, Quentin released “As Above, So Below”, a two-part EP series that transitions from introspective indie rock to house-inspired tracks, exploring grief, healing, and liberation.

Resources for The Fluidity of Gender Identity with Quentin Arispe (265)

“as above,SO BELOW” – Flim by Quentin Arispe

“Genre-Hopping Hustler Quentin Arispe Wants to Be in Every Room”Article from the Austin Chronicle


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