TU56: How We Come to Define Ourselves – Attachment Research Over Decades with Guest Alan Sroufe

by | Mar 6, 2018 | Attachment, Episodes, Guest Interviews, Parenting, Personal Growth, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma

Show Notes

Pick the brain of a leading attachment researcher to more deeply understand how attachment styles from infancy are both stable and can change over time. Dr. Sroufe leads us through his 40 years of research to give us his reflections on what is important in parenting and in relationships to grow security.

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If you’ve ever wanted to know how much you can predict a person’s development years in advance, then you’ll enjoy our conversation with Dr. Alan Sroufe. Co-host Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP talks with Dr. Sroufe about his research findings over the years and how insecure and secure attachment tendencies can develop and affect an individual through their lives.

Is change possible? Yes, we will tell you how. Also, can reinforcing positive expectations and taking good care of yourself as a parent truly affect your child’s growth? You’ll learn about the legacies of attachment and the importance of being able to turn to someone when in need of support. This is a hopeful journey, please join us!

Dr. Alan Sroufe is an internationally recognized expert on early attachment relationships, emotional development, and developmental psychopathology and has published seven books and 140 articles on these and related topics!

Dr. Sroufe is Professor Emeritus of Child Psychology in the Institute of Child Development at the University of Minnesota and he has been an Associate Editor of Developmental Psychology and Development and Psychopathology.  His awards include the Distinguished Scientific Contribution Award from the Society for Research in Child Development, the Bowlby Ainsworth Award for Contributions to Attachment Research, the G. Stanley Hall Award for Distinguished Scientific Contribution to Developmental Psychology from Division 7 of the American Psychology Association, an Honorary Doctorate Degree from the University of Leiden, and the Distinguished Teaching Award from the College of Education, University of Minnesota.

 

0:00-15:00

Introduction

Guiding question behind Sroufe’s ongoing 1974 study

Correlation between stress in parents and anxious/secure attachment in children

Importance of healthy relational questions

Why is change difficult? Negative expectations can result in off-putting behavior

Chronic early stress and early predictors

Life stress

15:00-30:00

Intergenerational transmission and the importance of taking care of yourself as a parent for your child

Attachment in children, positive expectations through parents, learning to manage yourself at a young age

Positive relationships with teachers reported for those with secure attachment backgrounds

Anecdote about Vera’s dream

30:00-45:00

The importance of a supportive relationship as a predictor

Those with secure history who experience bad times don’t lose their secure history

“Earned” secure attachment and its neurological intricacies

David Elliot, Healing Trauma

Transitional moments in development

45:00-60:00

Adolescents, capacity for vulnerability

Importance of being able to turn to someone, giving and receiving support, legacies of attachment

The difficulty of self-reporting, necessity of being observed, AAI

Impact of culture and class on development

Impact of socioeconomic situation

Attachment in primates

Wrap Up & Outro

Resources:

The Development of the Person The Minnesota Study of Risk and Adaptation from Birth Through Adulthood

by Dr. Alan Sroufe et al.

To reach Dr. Sroufe

Dr. Sroufe’s CV

Lessons from the Minnesota Longitudinal Study

Clinical Application of the Adult Attachment Interview Edited by H. Steele & M. Steele

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