TU58: Improving the Interpersonal World of the Internet for Both Kids and Adults with Guest Catherine Knibbs

by | Mar 28, 2018 | Attachment, Brain Science, Emotional Intelligence, Episodes, Guest Interviews, Neuroscience, Parenting, Relationships

Show Notes

Enjoyable one – learn the problematic and adaptive psychology behind online social interactions as Therapist Uncensored host Dr. Ann Kelley interviews this delightful UK-based psychotherapist and author. Catherine Knibbs coined the phrase “cyber trauma” and is the author of The Darker Side of the Internet for Children And Young People. This is not conservative doom and gloom. We get into attachment and neuroscience and provide realistic recommendations to help you and your children navigate the web, unpack myths, identify cyber bullying, discuss consent and provide proactive strategies that lead towards integration and health.

Respond more adaptively to the internet and social media rather than swinging guardrail-to-guardrail with unkept promises and overreactions. Explore the positive and negative elements of having a global “village” you can access instantly, anywhere via our phones and discuss the impact of the internet on developing minds and the interpersonal realm of young people and adults.

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Catherine’s interest in “cyber trauma” and personal experience with bullying, re-traumatizing experience of seeing photos posted online.

Sharing images online and the loss of choice, loss of consent even with OS updates. Trauma happens without choice.

Internet increases chances of exposure to traumatic images but also expands our “village”.

Retraumatization process



Exclusion in the cyber world is very comparable to physical bullying in terms of mental and emotional trauma. Exclusion from a party can be a much more intense experience in the social media realm as pictures are being posted

“Kicking” in online gaming, “doxxing” in online forums

Issue of sensitive material being downloaded and re-uploaded even if removed, teenagers don’t think through the long term behavior of risky behavior

“Trawling”: a continued unwanted presence on someone’s online profile

Attachment and pressure to like and post

Online interactions as a valuable social learning skill for those who might be too dysregulated by physical interactions BUT you can’t just interact online all the time. Importance of socializing in a normal social setting on brain and social development (like making eye contact).


Difficulty in disengaging while engrossed in a game, “Spaghetti Test”

Importance of becoming tech savvy, not just switching off video games without understanding how the game works, e.g. reaching save points, receiving XP

Recognition of video games and social media impacting complex ideas like death (“respawning”)

Idea of children being afraid to talk to parents after seeing traumatizing images on the internet because they think they’ll get in trouble, creating a forum for open discussion

Polyvagal theory related to internet impact


Sexting and the permanence of an online upload

Study of sexual images online

Pressure to share images, revenge porn, difficulty of trusting others with images once sent, hyper-rational thinking from adolescents, not considering outcomes especially with lack of education

Cyber signups, global synaptic connections

Suggestions for parents and the internet, issue of adolescents and children having instant access to shocking images they’re not developmentally ready for, importance of co-regulation

Wrap up and outro


Reach Catherine Knibbs here 

The Impact of the Online World on the Developing Brain, and Interpersonal Struggles of Children. International Journal Of Psychological Behavioural Analysis

The Darker Side of the Internet for Children and Young People by Catherine Knibbs

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

Cyberbullying: What Counselors Need to know, by Sheri Bauman

It’s Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens, by Danah Boyd

The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation, Stephen Porges

More Resources are always available here



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