Setting Boundaries that Stick with Juliane Taylor Shore (229)

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“Boundaries are self-worth in action” – Juliane Taylor Shore

We’re back with long-time friend of the podcast and expert, Juliane Taylor Shore LMFT, LPC, SEP. As we reflect on our episode from six years ago on boundaries, we dive into new knowledge and how we can create boundaries that stick. Juliane Taylor Shore blends her original methods like “the jello wall” with new research to share exciting and thoughtful insight on how through boundaries we can harness compassion in our relationships with others and ourselves.

“I have also seen that learning to trust yourself is a huge part of safety. When we handle life well, it's often the result of treating ourselves with love and respect, and leaning in to those who love us too.” – Juliane Taylor Shore

About our Guest – Juliane Taylor Shore LMFT, LPC, SEP

Juliane Taylor Shore is a therapist, author, teacher, and mom who is creating spaces where people can move into more self-compassion, self-trust, empowerment, and integrity. She regularly teaches and speaks to people from all around the world, and translates new understandings in neurobiology into practices that can support brain change. She is also the author of Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected and Empowered and an Associate Instructor with the Coherence Institute, and a core faculty member with Therapy Wisdom.

Time Stamps for Setting Boundaries that Stick 

00:53 – How Juliane wrote her book

3:15 – New ideas around boundary work

5:30 – Different categories of assessments

6:01 – Expanding the concept of boundaries

11:26 – Minds experience the world in different ways

16:34 – Explanation of the jello wall analogy

25:59 – Understanding the containing boundary

28:59 – The big emotional “oomph”

30:57 – What if you found your own version of a compassion gesture?

33:22 – Examples of key words

38:54 – The fourth boundary, physical

40:27 – Boundary repair, what it means to “gently come back to yourself”

50:38 – Creating the external boundary map

Resources for today's episode 

Juliane Taylor Shore – Official website

iPNB of Austin – Official website

Therapy Wisdom – Official website

How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered – Book by Juliane Taylor Shore

 

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