TU106: What Actually Heals in Therapy with Psychoanalyst Nancy McWilliams

by | Oct 18, 2019 | Attachment, Brain Science, Episodes, Guest Interviews, Neuroscience, Therapy, Trauma

Show Notes

Learn what actually works in therapy.

It’s hard to verbalize the problem with “evidence-based” models of care, but renowned psychoanalyst and psychologist Nancy McWilliams does just that. She further describes what happens in quality depth-oriented therapies such as psychoanalytically-informed, attachment-oriented therapy, and integrates the neurobiological aspect that Freud started that has now been confirmed.

Who is Nancy McWilliams?

Nancy McWilliams, PhD, ABPP, is Visiting Professor in the Graduate School of Applied and Professional Psychology at Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey, and has a private practice in Flemington, New Jersey. She is on the editorial board of Psychoanalytic Psychology and has authored three classic books on psychotherapy, including the award-winning Psychoanalytic Diagnosis, Second Edition: Understanding Personality Structure in the Clinical Process. Dr. McWilliams is an Honorary Member of the American Psychoanalytic Association and a former Erikson Scholar at the Austen Riggs Center in Stockbridge, Massachusetts. She is a recipient of the Leadership and Scholarship Awards from Division 39 (Psychoanalysis) of the American Psychological Association (APA) and the Hans H. Strupp Award from the Appalachian Psychoanalytic Society, and delivered the Dr. Rosalee G. Weiss Lecture for Outstanding Leaders in Psychology for APA Division 42 (Psychologists in Independent Practice). She has demonstrated psychodynamic psychotherapy in three APA educational videos and has spoken at the commencement ceremonies of the Yale University School of Medicine and the Smith College School for Social Work.

Show Notes – Psychoanalytic Perspectives on Therapy with Nancy McWilliams

Psychoanalytic Perspective, Trauma & Attachment Based Treatment

• Challenges – academic and scientific

• Short term focused

• Technique driven

• However, deprives individuals of the time needed to establish secure attachment to therapist, develop motivation to change, feel root feelings, etc.

• Psychoananalytic Perspective

• Humanistic-evidence based relationships

• Proving and disproving Freud

 Trauma treatment history

• Long term Therapy

Benefits

• Devoted Therapist

Negative Transference

“Difficult patients” typically are the ones that evoke parts of ourselves that we don’t like. Our own ugliness, our own badness, all of that. And again, that goes back to long-term treatment, but also long-term treatment of ourselves, you know, as doing our own work and really, you know, a lifelong process.

Research on non-verbal communications and what works in therapy.

Learning the defenses and what lies underneath

• Narcissism/soft toss

• Borderline

• what would you advise for people to get the most out of their therapy or any close relationship that they’re in? Do you have thoughts about that?

 

If you enjoy this episode you may also enjoy these:

TU105: Narcissism, What is Going On Under the Defense w Sue Marriott & Ann Kelley

TU90: Avoidance and the Difficulty Opening Up with Guest Robert T. Muller

TU41: The Dark Side Of Therapy: Recognizing When The Therapeutic Relationship Goes Bad

 

Resources:

Psychoanalytic Diagnosis by Nancy McWilliams (textbook for therapists and students)

To Know and to Care – A_Review of Psychoanalysis by Nancy McWilliams

A psychodynamic formulation masterclass by Nancy McWilliams

In Conversation Wih Dr Nancy McWilliam

The Therapeutic Presence In Psychoanalys by Nancy McWilliams

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed – Lori Gottlieb (Sue read this at Dr. McWilliams suggestion and found it hilarious, poignant and much like therapy occurs in real life. Highly recommended.)

 

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