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The 7 Basic Circuits of Emotion:
SEEKING, PLAY, LUST, CARE – reward circuits
FEAR, PANIC/LOSS, RAGE – punishing circuits, most animals want to avoid these emotional reactions
Why This Matters in Relationships
Each circuit was discussed and the interaction of one circuit being activated turning on corresponding circuits of emotion in the other was highlighted. For example distress signals are activated when one is separated from their pack (PANIC/LOSS) turns on the CARE network, drawing others to them in with intent to protect and nurture. RAGE however, and this includes indignation and anger in humans, turns on the same circuit – anger begets anger.
What You Can Do
So for those wanting to be closer in their relationships, it is advised to get VULNERABLE, show your distress, feel your needs and you will get the love you are looking for naturally. However get angry about not getting attention and you will get defensiveness and blame. So manipulate your close relationships into nurturing you by squeaking and expressing genuine vulnerability, they won’t be able to resist coming toward you with their hearts open.
Get right with your squeak!! It’s in our most basic instincts and this works powerfully!
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RESOURCES:
Additional resources for this episode:
- Jaak Panksepp – Affective Neuroscience Foundation of Emotions in Humans and Animals
- Louis Cozolino – Why Therapy Works Using our Minds to Change our Brains
- Joseph Ledoux – Anxious: Using the Brain to Understand and Treat Anxiety
- Dan Siegel – The Mindful Brain Reflections on Attunement and the Culture of Well-being
- These and other resources have been collected for you on our Resources page!
