Exploring Internal Working Models with Ann & Sue (199)

by | Mar 7, 2023 | Attachment, Brain Science, Episodes, Neuroscience, Personal Growth, Relationships | 0 comments

Show Notes

What did Bowlby mean by “internal working model” and how true did it turn out to be?

While it is mostly unconscious, our internal working models play a role in how we navigate our relationships with ourselves and others. Co-hosts Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott use neuroscience and personal narratives to help make this science digestible and applicable in our daily lives.

“Internal working models are not a metaphor – they're a real thing.” – Sue Marriott

Time Stamps for Internal Working Model 

5:53 – Definition of internal working model

9:58 – Most of the internal working model is unconscious

18:39 – Explanation of the term “wired in”

20:59 – Understanding how our brains are able to change and grow

28:50 – Recognizing dismissive characteristics

37:02 – Encouraging secure relating

43:50 – Sneak peek at TU updates and future episodes

Resources for Internal Working Model

Strange Situation – Mary Ainsworth

Internal Working Model – John Bowlby

View the transcripts for Internal Working Models with Ann & Sue here

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