Harnessing Fierce Self-Compassion to Speak Up & Claim Your Power with Dr. Kristin Neff (175)

by | May 10, 2022 | Episodes, Guest Interviews, Mindfulness, Neuroscience, Personal Growth, Therapy | 0 comments

Show Notes

Self-compassion has gotten a bad rap, it's time to update your perspective on this key tool to security.

We've been socialized to associate compassion with femininity, self-love, and gentleness, and self-compassion as a way of saying to be “nice” to yourself – basically a recipe to get walked on.  Dr. Kristin Neff has dedicated years of research to help understand, update and restructure the ideas around weakness so that all genders can harness the power of having a self-compassionate stance.

Join Dr. Kristin Neff and Co-host Dr. Ann Kelley as they explore the world of fierce self-love.

Embracing Fierce Self-Compassion

“Women have lower self-compassion levels than men because we're socialized to give compassion to others and to be self-sacrificing.  We feel less entitled to meet our own needs than men do.”  Kristin Neff

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About Dr. Kristin Neff

Dr. Kristin Neff

Dr. Kristin Neff is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, who has dedicated her life to understanding and educating others on their journey to fierce self-love. Neff earned her doctorate from the University of California at Berkeley and is currently an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin.

In addition to writing numerous academic articles and book chapters on the topic, she is the author of the book Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, along with her newest release – Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power and Thrive. In conjunction with her colleague Dr. Chris Germer, she has developed an empirically supported training program called Mindful Self-Compassion, which is taught by thousands of teachers worldwide. They co-authored The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook as well as Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals. She is also co-founder of the nonprofit Center for Mindful Self-Compassion.

Time Stamps 

00:18 – Why Neff shifted her research towards women

1:13 – Fierce self-compassion

2:09 – How men are harmed by their inability to be tender

7:13 – How it connects to the sympathetic nervous system

11:28 – Neff's 3-step model

13:59 – Research on self-compassion

21:22 – Biology or socialization?

32:18 – Why we are “afraid” to appreciate ourselves

50:29 – Positives and negatives of feeling anger

58:16 – Inner compassion

Resources 

Dr. Kristin Neff – Her main website loaded with free resources and MP3's

Center for Mindful Self-Compassion

Mindful Self-Compassion Intensive Workshop

The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook

Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals

Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power and Thrive

Kristen Neff: Self Compassion Step by Step, The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself (Audio CD)

Karen Bluth, forward by Kristin Neff: The Self-Compassion Workbook for Teens

Jean M Twenge and W. Keith Campbell: The Narcissism Epidemic Living in the Age of Entitlement

Self Compassion Test 

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Building Grit Through Self Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff – Episode 23

Sue and Ann Explore Self Criticism and Internal Scripts – Episode 169

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