TU132: Crisis Exhaustion – Hang in There, it’s Going to Be OK (Eventually) If We Stick Together

by | Oct 8, 2020 | COVID-19, Current Events, In The News, & Pop Culture, Emotional Intelligence, Episodes, Mindfulness, racism, Therapy | 0 comments

Show Notes

Together we can protect our hearts from freezing in bitterness, drowning in sorrow, lashing out in justified rage or worse, disconnecting.  Fight the exhaustion that comes with relentless crises  surrounding us now.

Dr. Ann Kelley & Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP reach out to you directly during this time of crisis exhaustion and total burnout.  Love & connection cannot be stopped by fire, storm, guns or people in temporary power.

Our stress response system is done coping yet we have to go back to work.  You may have kids that should be at school that are at home – probably acting out because they are thrown into virtual school (?!?) and that is enough for any adult to implode.  You may have young adults that are supposed to be headed into the world that are circling in and out, trying to find their way yet you can't help them, where do you point?   You may have vulnerable family you can't go see to comfort, friends you have drifted from without normal social exchanges, despondency due to our world on fire.

For many, you may have intense family cut offs due to political polarization at a time we need each other and our kin.  Honestly ya'll life sucks right now and people are doing what they do when they regress and burnout.

Sue and Ann come to you today

with a huge virtual hug no matter who you are or where you are tuning in from.  They are aware of their unearned privilege and don't imagine they know what it's like for the more vulnerable among us.  These multiple world crises are hitting black indigenous people of color and young people especially hard.  They are being hit from every angle – reduced access to healthcare, centuries of colonialism that leaves unseen trauma in communities that get passed down through generations.  Many start with cumulative unrecognized trauma to their very bodies.  This ignored pain leaves them more susceptible to multiple health concerns, so it's no surprise that BIPOC are more vulnerable to serious stressors and consequences from current COVID 19.

Regardless the results of the US election, the next climate storm or the next murder of unarmed people of color, most of us will have to wake up the next day and have no choice but to just have to go on.  Alone, our hearts are collectively breaking. Together… there is at least a chance we can emerge with enough life to grab on to one another.

Our nervous systems aren't built for marathon-level stress events.

Today's episode is a small attempt at protecting your tender human heart from freezing in bitterness, drowning in sorrow, lashing out in justified rage or worse of all… just disconnecting.

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