The Science of Trust and Attachment with Dr. Steve Finn (180)

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Show Notes

How to build epistemic trust to shift internal working models and create more secure relationships.  Learn the science of trust and attachment.

Deciding who to trust in today's world is especially hard – fake news, political polarization and societal strife amplifies our already on guard nervous system. When our trust has been broken, whether early in childhood or in our adult relationships, learning who to trust can prove even more challenging. In today's episode, Dr. Steve Finn and Dr. Ann Kelley discuss the science behind epistemic trust and why many of us may have broken trust meters. They discuss how trust issues can create a mess in our relationship, whether we are the constant skeptic who resists taking in new information or we tend to trust blindly, without testing or holding healthy doubts. Together they provide deep and compassionate insights into these struggles and how they relate to internal working models. A fan favorite, Dr. Finn returns to bring his years of expertise to our listeners about ways to use science to build trust using curiosity and tools of mentalization, including our ability to handle healthy skepticism.

“I think curiosity is infectious. When we bring our curiosity…really trying to get into someone else's shoes, that creates an open door for epistemic trust” – Dr. Steve Finn

The Science of Trust Ep 180 – About Dr. Steve Finn 

Dr. Steve Finn is a founder of the Center for Therapeutic Assessment, a licensed clinical psychologist in practice in Austin, Senior Researcher and Director of Training at the European Center for Therapeutic Assessment at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, and Director of Training at the Asian-Pacific Center in Tokyo, Japan. He has published 90+ articles and chapters on psychological assessment, psychotherapy, and other topics in clinical psychology. In 2011 Dr. Finn was awarded the Bruno Klopfer Award from the Society of Personality Assessment for distinguished lifetime contributions to the field of personality assessment. In August 2017 he received the award for Distinguished Scientific Contributions to Assessment Psychology from Section IX (Assessment) of the Society for Clinical Psychology (Division 12 of the American Psychological Association). In 2018 he was honored with the 2018 Carl Rogers Award for outstanding contributions to the theory and practice of humanistic psychology from the Society for Humanistic Psychology (Division 32 of the American Psychological Association).

Time Stamps for the Science of Trust Ep 180

00:58 – Introduction to “Therapeutic Assessment”

07:25 – Importance of epistemic trust

08:45 – Two types of difficulties in epistemic trust

12:43 – How clients utilize control mastery theory

19:09 – One of the core values of TA – “curiosity”

25:14 – Spotting the difference between hypervigilant trust and hypovigilant trust

27:57 – Explanation of Fonagy's three virtuous cycles

46:40 – Analyzing epistemic trust in our society

Resources for the Science of Trust Ep 180

Therapeutic Assessment – Website

The Role of Mentalizing and Epistemic Trust in Psychotherapeutic Relationships – Fonagy, P. Allison, E. (2014)

Fonagy, P., Luyten, P., Allison, E. (2015). Epistemic petrification and the restoration of epistemic
trust: A new conceptualization of borderline personality disorder and its psychosocial
treatment. Journal of Personality Disorders, 29, 575-609.

Gergely, G., Egyed, K., & Király, I. (2007). On natural pedagogy. In G. Csibra & G. Gergely (Eds.),
Humans and culture: The origins of cultural knowledge and its transition mechanisms.
Monographs of the Psychological Bulletin, 11, 107-125.

Sperber, D., Clement, F., Heintz, C., Mascaro, O., Mercier, H., Origgi, G., & Wilson, D. (2010).
Epistemic vigilance. Mind & Language, 25, 359–393.

Fantini, F., Aschieri, F., David, R. M., Martin, H., & Finn, S. E. (2022). Therapeutic Assessment
with adults: Using psychological testing to help clients change.
New York: Routledge.

Finn, S. E. (in press). From unresolved to earned secure attachment: The AAP as a powerful
clinical tool in psychotherapy. To appear in George, C., Wargo Aikens, J., & Lehmann, M.
(Eds), Clinical application of the Adult Attachment Projective Picture System. Routledge.
(pre-print available from the author)

Kamphuis, J. H, & Finn, S. E. (2019). Therapeutic Assessment in personality disorders: Toward
the restoration of epistemic trust. Journal of Personality Assessment, 101(6), 662-674.

Tharinger, D. J. Rudin, D. I., Frackowiak, M., & Finn, S. E. (2022). Therapeutic Assessment with
children: Enhancing parental empathy through psychological assessment. Routledge.

Dr. Steve Finn's Book – 2007

 

Click here to view Steve Finn's Episode Transcripts  – Lightly edited for readability

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