Back to Basics: Understanding All Things Attachment with Ann & Sue (209)

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Wanting to learn more about attachment? This is the episode for you!

This is a follow-up to our previous episode on recognizing secure states of mind. If you're a regular listener, you know we talk a lot about attachment – but what is it exactly? This episode is a refresher course where we break down what it is, what it isn't, attachment spectrums, embodied stories, and much more. Whether you're more advanced in your knowledge of the topic or starting fresh – this is a great place to connect and better understand how attachment plays a role in our lives.

“We are social beings, but we have to be social beings. This isn't a choice, it isn't an option. And our incredibly intuitive pre-programmed body knows that from in utero on – it's in our wiring.” – Dr. Ann Kelley

Time Stamps for Attachment Basics

1:17 – What is attachment?

4:29 – Why you should care about attachment

6:07 – Early attachment and its effect on our development

7:46 – Attachment is not the same thing as love

10:16 – Why we want to avoid attachment “categories”

15:29 – Example of embodied stories

20:48 – Understanding the protection system and connection system

26:22 – Utilizing curiosity to build secure attachment

28:01 – What is a coherent narrative?

39:10 – Recognizing patterns in your nervous system behaviors

Resources for Attachment Basics 

The Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation in the United States – Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy Calls for Action to Address Public Health Crisis

John Bowlby's Attachment theory – A summary of Bowlby's theory

Mary Ainsworth Strange Situation – A summary of Ainsworth's theory & experiment

If you enjoyed this one you'll love these: 

https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/secure-attachment/

TU151: Secure Parenting While Under Stress with Dan Siegel & Tina Payne-Bryson REPLAY

Secure Relating, Not the Same as Secure Attachment with Ann & Sue (190)

TU 149: Modern Attachment Regulation Spectrum – An Integrated Model of Change

TU126 – What Do We Mean by Modern Attachment? Sue Marriott & Ann Kelley Discuss

TU141: How We Become the Person's We Are with Dr. Alan Sroufe, Attachment Through the Lifespan

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